How to Curb Anger -The Stoic Way

by Darpan Sachdeva

via Massimo Pigliucci c/o aeon

I have always  been bewildered by the human trait of Anger for us as human beings on daily basis.and have always wondered why on the earth do we practice or embrace this emotion fully knowing that it brings no good to us in any of its forms.
Recently while my analyzing more on the Anger as an emotion i came through the following article where Professor Massimo Pigliucci has so brilliantly explained and connected Anger with the ancient Stoic Philosophy.



Down goes the original article: 

People get angry for all sorts of reasons, from the trivial ones (someone cut me off on the highway) to the really serious ones (people keep dying in Syria and nobody is doing anything about it). But, mostly, anger arises for trivial reasons. That’s why the American Psychological Association has a section of its website devoted to anger management. Interestingly, it reads very much like one of the oldest treatises on the subject, On Anger, written by the Stoic philosopher Lucius Annaeus Seneca back in the first century CE.

Seneca thought that anger is a temporary madness, and that even when justified, we should never act on the basis of it because, though ‘other vices affect our judgment, anger affects our sanity: others come in mild attacks and grow unnoticed, but men’s minds plunge abruptly into anger. … Its intensity is in no way regulated by its origin: for it rises to the greatest heights from the most trivial beginnings.’

The perfect modern milieu for anger management is the internet. If you have a Twitter or Facebook account, or write, read or comment on a blog, you know what I mean. Heck, Twitter anger has been brought up to new heights (or lows, depending on your point of view) by the current president of the United States, Donald Trump.

I too write quite a bit on online forums. It’s part of my job as an educator, as well as, I think, my duty as a member of the human polis. The conversations I have with people from all over the world tend to be cordial and mutually instructive, but occasionally it gets nasty. A prominent author who recently disagreed with me on a technical matter quickly labelled me as belonging to a ‘department of bullshit’. Ouch! How is it possible not to get offended by this sort of thing, especially when it’s coming not from an anonymous troll, but from a famous guy with more than 200,000 followers? By implementing the advice of another Stoic philosopher, the second-century slave-turned-teacher Epictetus, who admonished his students in this way: ‘Remember that it is we who torment, we who make difficulties for ourselves – that is, our opinions do. What, for instance, does it mean to be insulted? Stand by a rock and insult it, and what have you accomplished? If someone responds to insult like a rock, what has the abuser gained with his invective?’

Indeed. Of course, to develop the attitude of a rock toward insults takes time and practice, but I’m getting better at it. So what did I do in response to the above-mentioned rant? I behaved like a rock. I simply ignored it, focusing my energy instead on answering genuine questions from others, doing my best to engage them in constructive conversations. As a result, said prominent author, I’m told, is livid with rage, while I retained my serenity.

Now, some people say that anger is the right response to certain circumstances, in reaction to injustice, for instance, and that – in moderation – it can be a motivating force for action. But Seneca would respond that to talk of moderate anger is to talk of flying pigs: there simply isn’t such a thing in the Universe. As for motivation, the Stoic take is that we are moved to action by positive emotions, such as a sense of indignation at having witnessed an injustice, or a desire to make the world a better place for everyone. Anger just isn’t necessary, and in fact it usually gets in the way.

The philosopher Martha Nussbaum gave a famous modern example of this in her Aeon essay on Nelson Mandela. As she tells the story, when Mandela was sent to prison – for 27 years – by the Apartheid government of South Africa, he was very, very angry. And for good reasons: not only was a grave injustice being perpetrated against him personally, but against his people more generally. Yet, at some point Mandela realised that nurturing his anger, and insisting in thinking of his political opponents as sub-human monsters, would lead nowhere. He needed to overcome that destructive emotion, to reach out to the other side, to build trust, if not friendship. He befriended his own guard, and eventually his gamble paid off: he was able to oversee one of those peaceful transitions to a better society that are unfortunately very rare in history.

Interestingly, one of the pivotal moments in his transformation came when a fellow prisoner smuggled in and circulated among the inmates a copy of a book by yet another Stoic philosopher: the Meditations of Marcus Aurelius. Marcus thought that if people are doing wrong, what you need to do instead is to ‘teach them then, and show them without being angry’. Which is exactly what Mandela did so effectively.

So, here is my modern Stoic guide to anger management, inspired by Seneca’s advice:

  • Engage in preemptive meditation: think about what situations trigger your anger, and decide ahead of time how to deal with them.
  • Check anger as soon as you feel its symptoms. Don’t wait, or it will get out of control.
  • Associate with serene people, as much as possible; avoid irritable or angry ones. Moods are infective.
  • Play a musical instrument, or purposefully engage in whatever activity relaxes your mind. A relaxed mind does not get angry.
  • Seek environments with pleasing, not irritating, colours. Manipulating external circumstances actually has an effect on our moods.
  • Don’t engage in discussions when you are tired, you will be more prone to irritation, which can then escalate into anger.
  • Don’t start discussions when you are thirsty or hungry, for the same reason.
  • Deploy self-deprecating humour, our main weapon against the unpredictability of the Universe, and the predictable nastiness of some of our fellow human beings.
  • Practise cognitive distancing – what Seneca calls ‘delaying’ your response – by going for a walk, or retire to the bathroom, anything that will allow you a breather from a tense situation.
  • Change your body to change your mind: deliberately slow down your steps, lower the tone of your voice, impose on your body the demeanour of a calm person.

Above all, be charitable toward others as a path to good living. Seneca’s advice on anger has stood the test of time, and we would all do well to heed it.Aeon counter – do not remove

Massimo Pigliucci

This article was originally published at Aeon and has been republished under Creative Commons.

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So lets all try today to curb out this devil of temporary madness of Anger as its called ,hold it by the horns and overthrow it far far away.Here to living a  life of purpose and happiness……

For more on anger management,you can as well check here 



Darpan Sachdeva is the CEO and Founder of Nobel thoughts.com. With a long time passion for Entrepreneurship, Self development & Success, Darpan started his website with the intention of educating and inspiring like-minded people all over the world to always strive for success no matter what their circumstances.To keep going and never get disheartened and learn from every adversity.

 

 

 

8 Human Traits You Need to Be Successful (Not Your IQ)

by Darpan Sachdeva

via- SUCCESS Staff

Is it possible that intelligence is overrated? Although a natural touch for acquiring and making sense of knowledge is undoubtedly a valuable trait in our professional and personal lives, research has shown that there are far more important factors at play when it comes to succeeding at our goals and duties. In fact, the Carnegie Institute of Technology claims that 85 percent of financial success can be attributed to people skills rather than raw brain power. And it makes sense that people prefer to do business with those they trust.

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Elsewhere, Dr. Arthur E. Poropat identified five personality traits which—taking intelligence levels into account—can be shown to improve test results. Studying is of course recommended, but conscientiousness, openness, agreeableness, extraversion and emotional stability can also pay off with higher grades.

In the workplace, team-thinking and personal development should be key priorities, not afterthoughts to acquiring technical knowledge. Emotional awareness toward yourself, your colleagues and your clients sits at the core of an effective professional development strategy. In order to do that you need to do two things:

Know yourself. Manage your emotions, identify potential areas of improvement through training or research, take failure or mistakes as lessons and aim to grow.

Know others. Listen for their ideas and needs, work with these in mind even if you disagree with them, let your teammates and your customers see your passion.

Curiosity is a vastly underrated attribute that brings understanding, widens horizons and encourages fellowship. Taking time to study and develop the personality traits highlighted in the infographic below is a good sign in itself: These so-called “soft skills” are in fact fundamental to thriving in the business world. An open mind is endlessly more valuable than one rigidly stuffed with facts and unable to adapt to circumstances.

8 Things That are More Important for Success Than Intelligence

 

 

Darpan Sachdeva is the CEO and Founder of Nobel thoughts.com. With a long time passion for Entrepreneurship, Self development & Success, Darpan started his website with the intention of educating and inspiring like-minded people all over the world to always strive for success no matter what their circumstances.To keep going and never get disheartened and learn from every adversity.

16 Rich Habits-Your autopilot mode can make you wealthy or poor.

by Darpan Sachdeva

via Tom Corley-Success


Intelligence, talent and charm are great, but more often than not these aren’t what separate the wealthiest among us from the poorest.

Instead, the differences are in our daily habits. Do you realize that these subconscious, second-nature activities make up 40 percent of our waking hours? That means that two out of every five minutes, all day and every day, we operate on autopilot. It’s true: Habits are neural pathways stored in the basal ganglia, a golf ball-size mass of tissue right in the center of our brains, in the limbic system.

This neural fast lane is meant to save the brain energy: When a habit is formed and stored in this region, the parts of the brain involved in deeper decision-making cease to fully participate in the activity. However, we all know there are good habits and bad habits.

I spent years studying the difference between the habits of our country’s rich and poor, questioning hundreds of individuals. On the rich side, these were people with annual gross income north of $160,000 and net liquid assets of $3.2 million or more. I defined the lesser-off as those with gross income of $35,000 or less and no more than $5,000 in liquid assets. When I was done, I analyzed the results of my research and boiled down the responses to create a picture of what allows the wealthy to prosper where others do not. My ensuing book became a sort of instruction manual for how to become wealthy.

The gulf between Rich Habits and Poverty Habits is staggering. If you’re well off already, chances are you already adhere to most of these Rich Habits. Integrating the ones you’ve neglected will push you further. But be assured: If you’re doing fine now without minding these principles, it’ll catch up to you.

 

1. Live within your means.

Wealthy people avoid overspending by paying their future selves first. They save 20 percent of their net income and live on the remaining 80 percent.

Among those who are struggling financially, almost all are living above their means. They spend more than they earn, and their debt is overwhelming them. If you want to end your financial struggles, you need to make a habit of saving and budgeting what you spend.

2. Don’t gamble.

Talk about a sucker bet: Every week, 77 percent of those who struggle financially play the lottery. Hardly anyone who is wealthy plays the numbers. Wealthy people do not rely on random good luck for their wealth. They create their own good luck. If you still want to bet after knowing the risk, use money from your entertainment budget.

 

3. Read every day.

Reading information that will increase your knowledge about your business or career will make you more valuable to colleagues, customers or clients. Among wealthy people, 88 percent read 30 minutes or more every day. Just as important, they make good use of their reading time:

  • 63 percent listen to audiobooks during their commute.
  • 79 percent read educational career-related material.
  • 55 percent read for personal development.
  • 58 percent read biographies of successful people.
  • 94 percent read current events.
  • 51 percent read about history.
  • 11 percent—only 11 percent—read purely for entertainment purposes.

The reason successful people read is to improve themselves. This separates them from the competition. By increasing their knowledge, they are able to see more opportunities, which translate into more money. Comparatively speaking, only one in 50 of those struggling financially engages in this daily self-improvement reading, and as a result the poor don’t grow professionally and are among the first to be fired or downsized.

4. Forget the boob tube .

How much of your valuable time do you lose parked in front of a screen? Two-thirds of wealthy people watch less than an hour of TV a day .

Instead, these successful people use their free time engaged in personal development, networking, volunteering, working side jobs or side businesses, or pursuing some goal that will lead to rewards down the road. But 77 percent of those struggling financially spend an hour or more a day watching TV, and 74 percent spend an hour or more a day using the internet recreationally..

5. Control your emotions.

Not every thought needs to come out of your mouth. Not every emotion needs to be expressed. When you say whatever is on your mind, you risk hurting others. Loose lips are a habit for 69 percent of those who struggle financially. Conversely, 94 percent of wealthy people filter their emotions. They understand that letting emotions control them can destroy relationships at work and at home. Wait to say what’s on your mind until you’re calm and have had time to look at the situation objectively.

Fear is perhaps the most important negative emotion to control. Any change, even positive changes such as marriage or a promotion, can prompt feelings of fear. Wealthy people have conditioned their minds to overcome these thoughts, while those who struggle financially give in to fear and allow it to hold them back.

Whether you fear change, making mistakes, taking risks or simply failure, conquering these emotions is about leaning in just a little until you build up confidence. It’s amazing how much confidence helps.




6. Network and volunteer regularly.

You’ll build valuable relationships that can result in more customers or clients, or help you land a better job if you spend time pressing the flesh and giving back in your community. Almost three-quarters of wealthy people network and volunteer a minimum of five hours a month. Among those struggling financially, only one in 10 does this.

One perk of volunteering is the company you’ll keep. Very often the boards and committees of nonprofits are made up of wealthy, successful people. Developing personal relationships with these folks will often result in future business relationships.

7. Go above and beyond in work and business.

Unsuccessful people have “it’s not in my job description” syndrome. Consequently, they are never given more responsibility, and their wages grow very little from year to year—if they keep their jobs at all. Wealthy individuals, on the other hand, make themselves invaluable to their employers or customers, writing articles related to their industry, speaking at industry events and networking. Successful people work hard to achieve the mutual goals of their employers or their businesses.

8. Set goals, not wishes.

You cannot control the outcome of a wish, but you can control the outcome of a goal.

Every year, 70 percent of the wealthy pursue at least one major goal. Only 3 percent of those struggling to make ends meet do this.

 

9. Avoid procrastination.

Successful people understand that procrastination impairs quality; creates dissatisfied employers, customers or clients; and damages other nonbusiness relationships. Here are five strategies that will help you avoid procrastination:

  •  Create daily “to-do” lists. These are your daily goals. You want to complete 70 percent or more of your “to-do” items every day.
  •  Have a “daily five.” These activities represent the crucial things that will help you get closer to realizing some major purpose or goal.
  •  Set and communicate artificial deadlines. There’s nothing wrong with finishing early.
  •  Have accountability partners. These are people you team with to pursue a big goal. Communicate with them at least every week, and make sure they hold your feet to the fire.
  • Say a “do it now” affirmation. This is a self-nagging technique. Repeat the words “do it now” over and over again until you begin a task or project.

10. Talk less and listen more.

A 5-to-1 ratio is about right: You should listen to others five minutes for every one minute that you speak. Wealthy people are good communicators because they are good listeners. They understand that you can learn and educate yourself only by listening to what other people have to say.




11. Avoid toxic people.

We are only as successful as the people we spend the most time with. Of wealthy, successful people, 86 percent associate with other successful people. But 96 percent of those struggling financially stick with others struggling financially.

If you want to end your financial struggles, you need to evaluate each of your relationships and determine if they are a Rich Relationship (with someone who can help you up) or a Poverty Relationship (with someone holding you back). Start spending more and more time on your Rich Relationships and less on your Poverty Relationships. Rich Relationships can help you find a better job, refer new business to you or open doors of opportunity.

12. Don’t give up.

Those who are successful in life have three things in common: focus, persistence and patience. They simply do not quit chasing their big goals. Those who struggle financially stop short.

13. Set aside the self-limiting beliefs holding you back.

If you’re hurting financially, you’ve probably told yourself some of these untruths before: Poor people can’t become rich. Rich people have good luck and poor people have bad luck. I’m not smart. I can’t do anything right. I fail at everything I try.

Each one of these self-limiting beliefs alters your behavior in a negative way. Almost four out of five wealthy people attribute their success in life to their beliefs. Change your negative beliefs into positive affirmations by reading lessons from the greats of personal development, like Napoleon Hill, Dale Carnegie and Jim Rohn.

14. Get a mentor.

Among the wealthy, 93 percent who had a mentor attributed their success to that person. Mentors regularly and actively participate in your growth by teaching you what to do and what not to do. Finding such a teacher is one of the best and least painful ways to become rich.

If you know your goals, find someone who has already achieved them.

 

15. Eliminate “bad luck” from your vocabulary.

Those struggling financially in life have a way of creating bad luck for themselves. It’s a byproduct of their habits. Poverty Habits, repeated over and over are like snowflakes on a mountainside. In time, these snowflakes build up until the inevitable avalanche—a preventable medical problem, a lost job, a failed marriage, a broken business relationship or a bankruptcy.

Conversely, successful people create their own unique type of good luck. Their positive habits lead to opportunities such as promotions, bonuses, new business and good health.

16. Know your main purpose.

It’s the last Rich Habit, but it might be the most important. Those people who pursue a dream or a main purpose in life are by far the wealthiest and happiest among us. Because they love what they do for a living, they are happy to devote more hours each day driving toward their purpose.

Odds are, if you are not making sufficient income at your job, it is because you are doing something you do not particularly like. When you can earn a sufficient income doing something you enjoy, you have found your main purpose.

As you can see, the differences between rich and poor are simple—sometimes intuitive—but not insignificant. Aim to take up all 16 of these habits, and you’re almost guaranteed to become better off.




Darpan Sachdeva is the CEO and Founder of Nobel thoughts.com. With a long time passion for Entrepreneurship, Self development & Success, Darpan started his website with the intention of educating and inspiring like-minded people all over the world to always strive for success no matter what their circumstances.To keep going and never get disheartened and learn from every adversity.

 

 

 

11 Things must give up to achieve success in life

by  Darpan Sachdeva





”Somebody once told me the definition of hell:

“On your last day on earth, the person you became will meet the person you could have become.” — Anonymous

Sometimes, to become successful and get closer to the person we can become, we don’t need to add more things — we need to give up on some of them.

Getting successful  and rich in life is not easy.It takes lots of handwork and persistence.It takes discipline, focus, and a set of core values that guide you around the emotions and stress of daily combat.

You can easily get sidetracked with all the strategies and resources available to you with the modern technology .These tools and strategies are constantly changing on daily basis..You find yourself chasing tactics one after another, hoping that you will eventually get rich with one of them.

You try one ,it does not work for you and then change to another strategy which again does not work for you and henceforth.As you repeat that cycle, the idea of becoming a millionaire becomes blurry. What used to be very clear now seems frantically out of reach.

One things thats for sure that all rich and successful people know  are not only the things and habits that are to be done but also teh things that are to be given up and not be done what so ever. Here are eleven things you have to give up to achieve success.

1.Give up on need to be perfect:

Perfectionism is based on the false belief that if we do things perfectly.We can avoid failure.You just need to be honest about those mistakes and learn from the results that you achieve. It does you no good to pretend like you’re more successful that you really are. It stops you from doing the things that would help you achieve your goals.

Its about taking those baby steps on everyday basis that take you towards the bigger goal in your life.Its always about to try and do your best  and move ahead on regular basis.

Always favor progress over perfection.

 

2.Give up on being a know-it-all:

Don’t be that person that cuts everyone off mid-sentence. Listen to people. Don’t interrupt your employees or your customers. Don’t roll your eyes and stomp your feet while you wait for the person who is talking to stop. That’s selfish and shortsighted. And besides coming off as completely arrogant, you are missing out on important lessons by acting that way.

Yes, for surely ,a lot of things we hear are irrelevant ,unhelpful and the stuff that is criticism and insane.But if you can listen long enough ,you might get that little important information that happens to be the next essence that takes you ahead on your road to success

Listen for those moments. Ignore everything else.

3.Give up on Saying YES to things that do not support your Goals:

Successful people know it fully well that to get some thing in life more than average is possible only by sacrificing more than average.To be able to say NO to things that give results of instant gratification for the goals that would give long term fruition.

 

4.Give up Whinning:

“It’s not about the cards you’re dealt, but how you play the hand.”
― Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture

Successful people know that they are responsible for their life, no matter their starting point, weaknesses, and past failures.

Stop being the person who has to help “keep everyone else’s feet on the ground.” That’s just an excuse for you to whine and mope and be unnecessarily negative. No one likes a whiner. That’s just the truth.




5.Give up expecting life to be always fair

Stop pretending like you’re the only one who has bad, unexpected circumstances happen to them. Everyone lives in the same sometimes-erratic universe. You didn’t get it any worse than anyone else. Enough already with the theatrics. Rich people don’t get that way by sulking.

Always remember no matter how strong you are,life will beat you to your knees and make you fall.Success is not about falling and getting the hits ,its about getting back after the falling and hits.

 

6.Give up on  the fixed mindset:

“The future belongs to those who learn more skills and combine them in creative ways.” ― Robert Greene, Mastery

Successful people fully understand the value of the “Learn all” person over the “know all” person.They invest an immense amount of time on a daily basis to develop a growth mindset, acquire new knowledge, learn new skills and change their perception so that it can benefit their lives.

Remember, who you are today, it’s not who you have to be tomorrow.

7.Give upon not  taking responsibility:

In any area of your life, what you do has consequences. Sometimes those are good. Other times you are left with regrets. Actions have results. That’s a universal truth. It never changes. You will always get the results deserved by the activity that you’re doing.

You need to believe that what you do can make a difference. Hard work matters. A kind word matters. Honesty matters. Candor, personal responsibility, and fairness — they all matter. Because the lifestyle you lead is what ultimately determines how rich and successful you become. Make sure you’re doing the right things.




8.Give up your fear of seeking help:

You can’t succeed alone. If you want to succeed, you must ask for help. Let me be clear, asking for help does not mean asking others to do your push-ups for you.

Be confident about your need for asking for help.

Reach out to entrepreneurs, practitioners, and people with skills you need to succeed.

9.Give up on your need to make every one happy:

Trying to make everyone happy is a sign of weakness. You could have the best product in the world and some customers will still be upset. You could have the greatest customer service and some clients will be unhappy still. And, that’s OK.

 

10.Give up on your fear of the unknown:

Successful people are always ready to face the new upcoming and surprises while they try hard towards their success.They  are never afraid of the unknown.

11.  Give up your Vulnerabilities:

We are all vulnerable. Even if you deny it, you are vulnerable. The difference between someone who succeeds and someone who fails is the way they handle their vulnerabilities.




Darpan Sachdeva is the CEO and Founder of Nobel thoughts.com. With a long time passion for Entrepreneurship, Self development & Success, Darpan started his website with the intention of educating and inspiring like-minded people all over the world to always strive for success no matter what their circumstances.To keep going and never get disheartened and learn from every adversity.

 

How to Stop Procrastination-Authentic study

by Darpan Sachdeva

-via James clear

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Procrastination is a challenge we have all faced at one point or another. For as long as humans have been around, we have been struggling with delaying, avoiding, and procrastinating on issues that matter to us.

During our more productive moments, when we temporarily figure out how to stop procrastinating, we feel satisfied and accomplished. Today, we’re going to talk about how to make those rare moments of productivity more routine. The purpose of this guide is to break down the science behind why we procrastinate, share proven frameworks you can use to beat procrastination, and cover useful strategies that will make it easier to take action.

What is Procrastination?

Human beings have been procrastinating for centuries. The problem is so timeless, in fact, that ancient Greek philosophers like Socrates and Aristotle developed a word to describe this type of behavior: Akrasia.

Akrasia is the state of acting against your better judgment. It is when you do one thing even though you know you should do something else. Loosely translated, you could say that akrasia is procrastination or a lack of self-control.

Here’s a modern definition:

Procrastination is the act of delaying or postponing a task or set of tasks. So, whether you refer to it as procrastination or akrasia or something else, it is the force that prevents you from following through on what you set out to do.

Before we get too deep into this discussion, let’s pause for just a second.

Why Do We Procrastinate?

Ok, definitions are great and all, but why do we procrastinate? What is going on in the brain that causes us to avoid the things we know we should be doing?

This is a good time to bring some science into our discussion. Behavioral psychology research has revealed a phenomenon called “time inconsistency,” which helps explain why procrastination seems to pull us in despite our good intentions. Time inconsistency refers to the tendency of the human brain to value immediate rewards more highly than future rewards.

The best way to understand this is by imagining that you have two selves: your Present Self and your Future Self. When you set goals for yourself — like losing weight or writing a book or learning a language — you are actually making plans for your Future Self. You are envisioning what you want your life to be like in the future. Researchers have found that when you think about your Future Self, it is quite easy for your brain to see the value in taking actions with long-term benefits. The Future Self values long-term rewards.

However, while the Future Self can set goals, only the Present Self can take action. When the time comes to make a decision, you are no longer making a choice for your Future Self. Now you are in the present moment, and your brain is thinking about the Present Self. Researchers have discovered that the Present Self really likes instant gratification, not long-term payoff.

So, the Present Self and the Future Self are often at odds with one another. The Future Self wants to be trim and fit, but the Present Self wants a donut. Sure, everyone knows you should eat healthy today to avoid being overweight in 10 years. But consequences like an increased risk for diabetes or heart failure are years away.

Similarly, many young people know that saving for retirement in their 20s and 30s is crucial, but the benefit of doing so is decades off. It is far easier for the Present Self to see the value in buying a new pair of shoes than in socking away $100 for 70-year-old you. (If you’re curious, there are some very good evolutionary reasons for why our brain values immediate rewards more highly than long-term rewards.)

This is one reason why you might go to bed feeling motivated to make a change in your life, but when you wake up you find yourself falling back into old patterns. Your brain values long-term benefits when they are in the future (tomorrow), but it values immediate gratification when it comes to the present moment (today).

The Procrastination-Action Line

You cannot rely on long-term consequences and rewards to motivate the Present Self. Instead, you have to find a way to move future rewards and punishments into the present moment. You have to make the future consequences become present consequences.

This is exactly what happens during the moment when we finally move beyond procrastination and take action. For example, let’s say you have a report to write. You’ve known about it for weeks and continued to put it off day after day. You experience a little bit of nagging pain and anxiety thinking about this paper you have to write, but not enough to do anything about it. Then, suddenly, the day before the deadline, the future consequences turn into present consequences, and you write that report hours before it is due. The pain of procrastinating finally escalated and you crossed the “Action Line.”

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There is something important to note here. As soon as you cross the Action Line, the pain begins to subside. In fact, being in the middle of procrastination is often more painful than being in the middle of doing the work. Point A on the chart above is often more painful than Point B. The guilt, shame, and anxiety that you feel while procrastinating are usually worse than the effort and energy you have to put in while you’re working. The problem is not doingthe work, it’s starting the work.

If we want to stop procrastinating, then we need to make it as easy as possible for the Present Self to get started and trust that motivation and momentum will come after we begin. (Motivation often comes after starting, not before.)

Let’s talk about how to do that now.

II. How to Stop Procrastinating Right Now

There are a variety of strategies we can employ to stop procrastinating. Below, I’ll outline and explain each concept, then I’ll provide you with some examples of strategy in action.

Option 1: Make the Rewards of Taking Action More Immediate

If you can find a way to make the benefits of long-term choices more immediate, then it becomes easier to avoid procrastination. One of the best ways to bring future rewards into the present moment is with a strategy known as temptation bundling.

Temptation bundling is a concept that came out of behavioral economics research performed by Katy Milkman at The University of Pennsylvania. Simply put, the strategy suggests that you bundle a behavior that is good for you in the long-run with a behavior that feels good in the short-run.

The basic format is: Only do [THING YOU LOVE] while doing [THING YOU PROCRASTINATE ON].

Here are a few common examples of temptation bundling:

  • Only listen to audiobooks or podcasts you love while exercising.
  • Only get a pedicure while processing overdue work emails.
  • Only watch your favorite show while ironing or doing household chores.
  • Only eat at your favorite restaurant when conducting your monthly meeting with a difficult colleague.

Option 2: Make the Consequences of Procrastination More Immediate

There are many ways to force you to pay the costs of procrastination sooner rather than later. For example, if you are exercising alone, skipping your workout next week won’t impact your life much at all. Your health won’t deteriorate immediately because you missed that one workout. The cost of procrastinating on exercise only becomes painful after weeks and months of lazy behavior. However, if you commit to working out with a friend at 7 a.m. next Monday, then the cost of skipping your workout becomes more immediate. Miss this one workout and you look like a jerk.

Another common strategy is to use a service like Stickk to place a bet. If you don’t do what you say you’ll do, then the money goes to a charity you hate. The idea here is to put some skin in the game and create a new consequence that happens if you don’t do the behavior right now.

Option 3: Design Your Future Actions

One of the favorite tools psychologists use to overcome procrastination is called a “commitment device.” Commitment devices can help you stop procrastinating by designing your future actions ahead of time.

For example, you can curb your future eating habits by purchasing food in individual packages rather than in the bulk size. You can stop wasting time on your phone by deleting games or social media apps. (You could also block them on your computer.)

Similarly, you can reduce the likelihood of mindless channel surfing by hiding your TV in a closet and only taking it out on big game days. You can voluntarily ask to be added to the banned list at casinos and online gambling sites to prevent future gambling sprees. You can build an emergency fund by setting up an automatic transfer of funds to your savings account. These are all examples of commitment devices that help reduce the odds of procrastination.

Option 4: Make the Task More Achievable

As we have already covered, the friction that causes procrastination is usually centered around starting a behavior. Once you begin, it’s often less painful to keep working. This is one good reason to reduce the size of your habits because if your habits are small and easy to start, then you will be less likely to procrastinate.

One of my favorite ways to make habits easier is to use The 2-Minute Rule, which states,

“When you start a new habit, it should take less than two minutes to do.” The idea is to make it as easy as possible to get started and then trust that momentum will carry you further into the task after you begin. Once you start doing something, it’s easier to continue doing it. The 2–Minute Rule overcomes procrastination and laziness by making it so easy to start taking action that you can’t say no.

Another great way to make tasks more achievable is to break them down. For example, consider the remarkable productivity of the famous writer Anthony Trollope. He published 47 novels, 18 works of non-fiction, 12 short stories, 2 plays, and an assortment of articles and letters. How did he do it? Instead of measuring his progress based on the completion of chapters or books, Trollope measured his progress in 15-minute increments. He set a goal of 250 words every 15 minutes and he continued this pattern for three hours each day. This approach allowed him to enjoy feelings of satisfaction and accomplishment every 15 minutes while continuing to work on the large task of writing a book.

Making your tasks more achievable is important for two reasons.

  1. Small measures of progress help to maintain momentum over the long-run, which means you’re more likely to finish large tasks.
  2. The faster you complete a productive task, the more quickly your day develops an attitude of productivity and effectiveness

III. Being Consistent: How to Kick the Procrastination Habit

Alright, we’ve covered a variety of strategies for beating procrastination on a daily basis. Now, let’s discuss some ways to make productivity a long-term habit and prevent procrastination from creeping back into our lives.

The Daily Routine Experts Recommend for Peak Productivity

One reason it is so easy to slip back into procrastination time after time is because we don’t have a clear system for deciding what is important and what we should work on first. (This is yet another example of the system often being more important than the goal.)

One of the best productivity systems I have found is also one of the most simple. It’s called The Ivy Lee Method and it has six steps:

  1. At the end of each work day, write down the six most important things you need to accomplish tomorrow. Do not write down more than six tasks.
  2. Prioritize those six items in order of their true importance.
  3. When you arrive tomorrow, concentrate only on the first task. Work until the first task is finished before moving on to the second task.
  4. Approach the rest of your list in the same fashion. At the end of the day, move any unfinished items to a new list of six tasks for the following day.
  5. Repeat this process every working day.

How to Avoid Chronic Procrastination With Visual Cues

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Another way to overcome the trap of chronic procrastination is to use visual cues to trigger your habits and measure your progress.

A visual cue is something you can see (a visual reminder) that prompts you to take action. Here’s why they are important for beating procrastination:

Visual cues remind you to start a behavior. We often lie to ourselves about our ability to remember to perform a new habit. (“I’m going to start eating healthier. For real this time.”) A few days later, however, the motivation fades and the busyness of life begins to take over again. Hoping you will simply remember to do a new habit is usually a recipe for failure. This is why a visual stimulus can be so useful. It is much easier to stick with good habits when your environment nudges you in the right direction.

Visual cues display your progress on a behavior. Everyone knows consistency is an essential component of success, but few people actually measure how consistent they are in real life. Having a visual cue—like a calendar that tracks your progress—avoids that pitfall because it is a built-in measuring system. One look at your calendar and you immediately have a measure of your progress.

Visual cues can have an additive effect on motivation. As the visual evidence of your progress mounts, it is natural to become more motivated to continue the habit. The more visual progress you see, the more motivated you will become to finish the task. There are a variety of popular behavioral economics studies that refer to this as the Endowed Progress Effect. Seeing your previous progress is a great way to trigger your next productive action.

Two of my favorite strategies that use visual cues are The Paper Clip Strategy, which is helpful for beating procrastination day-after-day, and The Seinfeld Strategy, which is great for maintaining consistency over longer periods of time.

I hope you found this short guide on procrastination useful.

Blog PhotoDarpan Sachdeva is the CEO and Founder of Nobel thoughts.com. With a long time passion for Entrepreneurship, Self development & Success, Darpan started his website with the intention of educating and inspiring like-minded people all over the world to always strive for success no matter what their circumstances.To keep going and never get disheartened and learn from every adversity.

 

20 Habits of Eventual Millionaires

by  Darpan Sachdeva

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Following  are the powerful habits of rich, successful people according to serial entrepreneur James Altucher.

Altucher is an American hedge fund manager, entrepreneur, bestselling author, and podcaster. Having founded or cofounded more than 20 companies, including Reset Inc. and StockPickr and says he failed at 17 of them.

His books ‘Choose Yourself: Be Happy’ and ‘Make Millions, Live the Dream’ have been read and re-read by aspiring entrepreneurs across the world,.

Here outlined are his ‘The 20 Habits Of Eventual Millionaires’ list. How many can you tick off? I strongly believe that following even  half way of these 20 habits could bring us closer to  millions we aspire.

Enjoy the read and share your views on the experiences you face doing these metallic habits…

 

1.Say “No”

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Sometimes its wiser to say No to distractions to get the results you need in the limited time in hand. “When you say “No” you have more time to read, learn, sleep, ask questions, contact friends,family, love life. Say “no” more.”

 

  1. Love

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Mankind would be in  such a good place if all of us give and extend that extra love to each other on daily basis.”This is the only religion. This is the only thing worth surrendering to. This is the fuel for your idea muscle.”

 

  1. Make Mistakes

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Success is never attained by the first hit.It takes a series of mistakes that turn the failures eventually to path to success.With each mistake on the road ,lesson is learnt and step forward is taken.”Mistakes are the spell books of success. Study them hard. Learnt heir incantations. When muscles tear they rebuild stronger.”

 

  1. Plant Seeds

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“Basic Garden Math: 1% of the seeds turns into 50% of the flowers. Plant lots of seeds.”

Most people have a goal and they work hard following that.Well there is nothing wrong with that.But the real key is to plant many many seeds so as to get  more flowers.

What are the seeds for life?

Have gratitude for what you have and value it,Share good ideas with friends and people.Eat healthy,Exercise,read a good book. Care for your family

 

  1. Be Around People Who Are Kind To You And Love You

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This has to develop as a habit to grow.It will take it own time and sweat.Important is to grow and improve on daily basis.”Other people will make you unhappy, unkind and unsuccessful.”

 

  1. Stand Next To The Smartest Person In the Room

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There is a saying that if you see your self as the smartest person in the room then you are in the wrong room.”Harold Ramis did it (Bill Murray). Steve Jobs did it (Steve Wozniak). Craig Silverstein did it (Larry Page). Kanye West did it (Jay Z). I make money only when I do this.”

Just look for the smartest person in the room,Quietly follow him without asking any questions.

 

  1. No Excuses

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People generally say i do not have enough time,enough money,enough friends,enough energy to get success. Stop these excuses as they bring you no where forward.

“Blaming is draining. Complaining is draining. Explaining is draining. We don’t have enough inner plumbing for all that draining.”




  1. Don’t Be In A Rush

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To get to the success and desired goals in life it takes time.Its built of the moments of tiny success on the way to the bigger life goal.Enjoy every bit of it.”Every overnight success I’ve spoken to, took 10 – 20 years to get there. But only if they celebrated small successes along the way.”

  1. Solve Difficult Gratitude Problems

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In the time of stress, anger and distress ,stop for a while and think of one good thing for which you are grateful for.extend gratitude for the good things around you what you are happy with..

“If you can find a diamond in the mud, you are going to end up with a lot of diamonds in life.”

10 Warren Buffett’s 5/25 Rule

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“Make a list of 25 things to do in life. Now do the top 5. And never again think about the other 20 ever, else they will take time away from the 5 that are most important to you.”

 

  1. Write Down 10 Ideas A Day

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“This actually turns into a super power. Do this for six months and see what happens.”

Coming up with great ideas requires muscle .Carry a journal with you, or make use of the notepad on your phone and, throughout the day, jot down ideas that come to mind. There is something about writing your ideas down that makes the brain feel like the idea was acknowledged.

 

  1. Follow Up

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“I’m shy and bad at this. And lazy. Send an email the next day with an idea on the next step. I have to work on this.”

Following up might be a “nice to meet you” email. Or maybe it’s buying them a first edition of their favorite book or  movie .Or maybe it’s one of the 10,000 things in between that.




  1. Ask Questions

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“There are more questions than answers. Opportunities are buried in the questions, Facts can be outsourced.”

Never stop being curious and ask questions to what might lead you fulfill your thirst and lead to success.

  1. 1% A Day

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“Whatever you want to get better at: do1% more each day. 1% a day, compounded, is 3800% a year. You win.”

You have that huge goal to write a book,win the tournament,make millions or become a leader,move towards it with the ” a little a day” concept.Take baby steps every day towards the big goal.

 

  1. Right Now

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“Regret will waste time today worrying about yesterday. And anxiety will steal energy from the future. Focus on right now.”

Every time I’ve had a problem in the future, it never came true.

Every time I’ve had a regret in the past, the regret kept me glued to the mud.

Right now you are dealt cards. No other hand before or after will help you right now.

So this is the only moment to focus on. Right now is best predictor of Right Life.

 

  1. Sleep

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“Sleep rejuvenates brain cells, heals the body, and reduces anxiety. And your brain is only active 2-5 hours a day. Sweets dreams.”

  1. Every Day, Avoid Death

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“You can’t get rich from a hospital bed. Or a grave. Move every day, sleep well, eat well.”

Its generally trusted that as you grow old your metabolism starts to change.This is wrong.You just start sitting more as you grow.So start moving.

  1. Do One Thing Every Day You Loved As A Kid

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“This is usually the fuel that can power your life.”

I always loved to write,so i write now whenever get the time to do it.I have always loved to speak in front of public ,so i practice now public speaking and teaching. on whenever possible.

As a kid what ever we wanted to do was our internal calling  and could have been suppressed with time but is never killed.You can always bring it back if you follow your heart.

 

Wait: I thought there were 20? 

“Secret to success = give yourself permission to sometimes be wrong.”

This could be counted in as another habit not less important towards earning your millions.

Give yourself permission to not always be right. Give yourself permission to not always be liked. Give yourself permission to not always be at peace. Give yourself permission to not be a success.Then you will gradually have whatever you gave yourself permission “to not.”

 

The above habits will make you that bright sun glowing with immense power who has these worth applauding powerful qualities and habits.

To your success!!!




Blog PhotoDarpan Sachdeva is the CEO and Founder of Nobel thoughts.com. With a long time passion for Entrepreneurship, Self development & Success, Darpan started his website with the intention of educating and inspiring like-minded people all over the world to always strive for success no matter what their circumstances.To keep going and never get disheartened and learn from every adversity.

 

If you are not growing-You are dying !!!

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by  Darpan Sachdeva

via Team Tony at www.tonyrobbins.com

Tony Robbins says that if you’re not growing, you’re dying. No wonder that he’s addicted to growth, obsessively focused on learning, understanding, and mastering new things, from finance strategies to playing polo. But growth doesn’t require massive changes 24/7 — for many of us it’s woven into our daily routine.

Think about it. How do you integrate growth in your life? Good methods of growing can be anything from feeding your mind with books, classes or lectures. Or perhaps even just listening to others and to the world around you. Growth can be taking a chance, a risk, or putting yourself in a situation that may be out of your wheelhouse. It also may be pushing yourself, and trying to find new ways to be a better version of yourself every single day. If you’re a business owner, then maybe it’s finding new strategies or tactics to growing your business or your investments. Or maybe it’s learning a new language or skill. It could also be something simple like trying a new kind of food, seeing a different movie than you usually do, or pushing yourself to not settle for the known but to reach, instead, for the unknown.

Growth can come in many forms. But growth creates the most impact when it leads to mastery. Remember, mastery has three levels: intellectual, emotional and physical, as Tony lays out here:

 

Repetition is the mother of skill, which is why for so many of us growth is truly addictive. Think of it this way — the more you grow, the more you’re able to master. The more you master, the more you grow. How’s that for a positive feedback cycle? And the more you bring growth into your body, the less you have to think about it.




 

How do you incorporate growth into your life? Have you made a habit of investing in yourself to grow as a person? Whether learning a new language, trying a new activity, or even attempting a new challenge, making growth a priority – and a habit – will make your life one of dynamic improvement.




 

Blog PhotoDarpan Sachdeva is the CEO and Founder of Nobel thoughts.com. With a long time passion for Entrepreneurship, Self development & Success, Darpan started his website with the intention of educating and inspiring like-minded people all over the world to always strive for success no matter what their circumstances.To keep going and never get disheartened and learn from every adversity.

(Video) Powerful life changing Inspirational revelations from Jim Carrey

by  Darpan Sachdeva

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The words spoken below are essence of life.So powerful…..

“My soul is not contained within the limits of my body, my body is contained within the limitlessness of my soul. I’ve often said that I wish people could realize all their dreams and wealth and fame so that they can see that it’s not where you’re gonna find your sense of completion. I can tell you from experience the effect you have on others is the most valuable currency there is, because everything you gain in life will rot, and fall apart, and all that will be left of you is what was in your heart.”

The above quote comes from a speech given by Jim Carey about a year now.

Jim Carrey has an extremely successful stand-up comedy and film career, but he didn’t have an easy time making his way to the top.In his early years at school, Carrey was very quiet and didn’t have many friends. He was an undiagnosed dyslexic, and often struggled in school.

He began compensating with humor, causing many teachers to label him as disruptive, but also causing him to realize that he could connect with people by making them laugh. This spurred his creativity and humorous side, which has propelled his acting career.

As one who has had his bouts with depression, Jim Carrey reveals how important his spirituality is to his well-being.

Over the past few year he spend his time sharing his pearls of wisdom at talks and seminars around the globe. The video below which starts off by Jim sharing how he started on his spiritual journey and then goes onto give some great advice that I think everyone should listen to.

Enjoy  below is a recent video from him  which i am pretty sure would make you rethink on the way we look at life for us….

Blog PhotoDarpan Sachdeva is the CEO and Founder of Nobel thoughts.com. With a long time passion for Entrepreneurship, Self development & Success, Darpan started his website with the intention of educating and inspiring like-minded people all over the world to always strive for success no matter what their circumstances.To keep going and never get disheartened and learn from every adversity.

How to improve your life in 2017

by  Darpan Sachdeva

Its middle of January and its time for everyone to start the implementation of all the steps and plans what we have set up for us for the fulfillment of our goals for the year 2017.The video below is so motivating and i find of huge value.Its a 30 minute watch approximately and should help you energize move forward with your goal achievement.

 

Some of the essence from the video gathered is :

1.Start changing yourself if you want to change the life around youMahatma Gandhi

2.Most People fail in life because they major in minor things-Tony Robbins

3.The more time you spend in your discomfort zone,the more your comfort zone will expand-Robin Sharma

4.If you do what you’ve always done,you’ll get what you’ve always gotten-Tony Robbins

5.Progress is impossible without change,and those who cannot  change their minds cannot change any thing-George Bernard Shaw

6.If you want to live a happy life,tie it to a goal,not to people or objects-Albert Einstein

7.The people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones who do.Think different-Albert Einstein



 

Blog PhotoDarpan Sachdeva is the CEO and Founder of Nobel thoughts.com. With a long time passion for Entrepreneurship, Self development & Success, Darpan started his website with the intention of educating and inspiring like-minded people all over the world to always strive for success no matter what their circumstances.To keep going and never get disheartened and learn from every adversity.

 

 

Considerations for the New Year 2017

by  Darpan Sachdeva

The start of the  new year  is like a start of  new phase in our lives ,a new chapter to start in our life book.This is the time when you do need to take care of your mindset and emotional triggers under control and work upon your affirmations and goals for the year ahead.

Me doing the same have come across the following considerations for the upcoming year and would want to share with you all.I do hope this brings value to  everyone.

1.On Earning:

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Never depend upon a single stream of revenue in these hard economic times.There is always some thing not working fine and errors happening.A multiple  income source shall be a peace of mind.

What can be  a better suggestion than this coming out from the world’s best financial guru and investor Warren Buffet himself.He has lived the life which proves to this fully.

2.On Spending:

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If you buy things you do not need,soon you will have to sell things you need.Its just a thought and i do not say you do not buy things that really fancy and motivate you move ahead in life.Of course,there are things on day-to-day basis that we do need but as for the fancy needs,trust me there is no end to it.There is always a step higher.

 

3.On Savings:

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Do not save  what is left after spending,but spend what is left after saving.This money habit is one that most of us in today’s world are entrapped to and cannot find a way out.The earlier we adopt this,better its going to be for us and the society as a whole in the long run.

4.On taking Risks:

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Never ever test the depth of a river with both your feet.Now i do not say that one should not be daring and brave but a wise and thoughtful bravery is the way to go.

 

5.On Investment:

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Do not put all your eggs in one basket.Nothing is ever stable in life for long and mess does happens.So far more you have spread out investments wisely ,more safe should you feel as per The finance Supremo “Warren Buffet”

 

6.On expectations:

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Honesty is a very expensive gift.Do not expect it from cheap people.Its one strong feature of humankind that once grown and nourished takes you through a long way,but not so easy to be found in our days sadly.

 

7.On Past:

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Past is waste paper,present is a news paper and future is a question paper.Come out of your past,Control the present and secure the future.The new and achievable lies in front of us in the future.lets work on it.

 

8.When bad things happen in life:

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When some thing bad happens in life ,you have three choices.You can either let it define you,let it destroy you,or you can let it strengthen you.

As the Stoics would say ,it’s not the event or happening  that is important as much as our perception of event that  controls your behavior towards future.



9.Mistakes:

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We use pencils when we were young,but now we use pens.Do you know why?Because mistakes in childhood can easily be erased,unlike now. I do not say we should stop attempting and looking forward in life but to create the same mistakes again and again is not the way to go.

 

Wishing you all a very happy and prosperous new year.Please let me know in the comments below your new year considerations for 2017.



Blog PhotoDarpan Sachdeva is the CEO and Founder of Nobel thoughts.com. With a long time passion for Entrepreneurship, Self development & Success, Darpan started his website with the intention of educating and inspiring like-minded people all over the world to always strive for success no matter what their circumstances.To keep going and never get disheartened and learn from every adversity.