Motivation in life-The Goldilocks rule

by  Darpan Sachdeva

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During the course of daily routines we pick up certain tasks and leave them in between never completing them.Have you ever thought why this happens to almost all of us on daily basis.Whats the reason for this popping up of lack of motivation within us that stops us to go ahead  and live a life of abundance?

Researchers and scientists  have studied motivation for long now and have come to conclusion that human motivation is based on certain parametres.In continuation to this they have proven a  rule also called “Goldilocks Rule  to motivation”.

The Goldilocks Rule states that humans experience peak motivation when working on tasks that are right on the edge of their current abilities. Not too hard. Not too easy. Just right.

Human beings love challenges, but only if they are within the optimal zone of difficulty.
For example, imagine you are playing tennis. If you try to play a serious match against a four-year-old, you will quickly become bored. The match is too easy. On the opposite end of the spectrum, if you try to play a serious match against a professional tennis player like Roger Federer or Serena Williams, you will find yourself demotivated for a different reason. The match is too difficult.

Compare these experiences to playing tennis against someone who is your equal. As the game progresses, you win a few points and you lose a few points. You have a chance of winning the match, but only if you really try. Your focus narrows, distractions fade away, and you find yourself fully invested in the task at hand. The challenge you are facing is “just manageable.” Victory is not guaranteed, but it is possible. Tasks like these, science has found, are the most likely to keep us motivated in the long term.

Tasks that are significantly below your current abilities are boring. Tasks that are significantly beyond your current abilities are discouraging. But tasks that are right on the border of success and failure are incredibly motivating to our human brains. We want nothing more than to master a skill just beyond our current horizon.

Measure Your Progress

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Its been said whats is measured is done.
If you want any part of your life to improve ,you have got to put it to some sort of measurable values.This is the boost giver that would enhance you move fully tracked towards your goals. It has to do with achieving that perfect blend of hard work and happiness.

Working on challenges of an optimal level of difficulty has been found to not only be motivating, but also to be a major source of happiness. As psychologist Gilbert Brim put it, “One of the important sources of human happiness is working on tasks at a suitable level of difficulty, neither too hard nor too easy.”

This blend of happiness and peak performance is sometimes referred to as flow, which is what athletes and performers experience when they are “in the zone.” Flow is the mental state you experience when you are so focused on the task at hand that the rest of the world fades away.

In order to reach this state of peak performance, however, you not only need to work on challenges at the right degree of difficulty, but also measure your immediate progress. As psychologist Jonathan Haidt explains, one of the keys to reaching a flow state is that “you get immediate feedback about how you are doing at each step.” The human brain is wired this way.

Two Steps to Motivation as research has shown:

If we want to break down the mystery of how to stay motivated for the long-term, down below would help:

  1. Stick to The Goldilocks Rule and work on tasks of just manageable difficulty.
  2. Measure your progress and receive immediate feedback whenever possible.
 
Wanting to improve your life is easy. Sticking with it is a different story. To stay on a motivated  mode, pick up a task or a challenge that is just within your reach,measure as you progress  and repeat the process.

Here is to your success and being motivated !!!




Blog PhotoDarpan Sachdeva is the CEO and Founder of Nobel thoughts.com. With a long time passion for Entrepreneurship, Self development & Success, Darpan started his website with the intention of educating and inspiring like minded people all over the world to always strive for success no matter what their circumstances.To keep going and never get disheartened and learn from every adversity.

11 Life lessons learnt from the Champ-Muhammad Ali

by  Darpan Sachdeva

Last week the famous,one and only one ,The great Muhammad Ali  sadly passed away  but the legacy, as a person what he was and would be for the times and generations to come is just unmeasurable .The loss of the  Champ of the champions is huge.

 

Down below in the video- A Very Touching Tribute To Muhammad Ali by Billy Crystal

His life as one, teaches us so much to live by but down below are the 11 prominent lessons from him what are worth learning to live a life of fullness and abundance

 

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1. Turn your .Anger into power
At the age of 12, he was found seething with anger and vowing to “whup” the person who had stolen his bicycle. Joe Martin a police officer and boxing coach advised him to take up boxing before making such a move for self defence. The rest is history. What makes you Angry? You could turn that into power

2.It’s not the action that makes a thing right or wrong, but the purpose behind the action.

We must take ‘right’ action motivated by a purpose greater than ourselves. It must be a purpose designed to help others and to make for a better world.

If our purpose is selfish, its longevity will be unsustainable, but if it is given as an act of generosity, then who knows what power is emitted by such action?

3.Focus
Even when there were distractions around, he focused on training. Focus on what matters. In High School he graduated 376th out of a class of 391. He focused on his strength. The boxing ring and not the classroom.

4.To be able to give away riches is mandatory if you wish to possess them. This is the only way that you will be truly rich.

Giving back is the only way to true richness.More you are able to put the riches for the betterment of the people around you and the society as a whole ,the more rich you become.

5.Self-belief

Always trust your self.For Muhammad Ali,even when the media didn’t believe he would beat George Foreman in the famous Rumble in the jungle fight, he still believed that he was the greatest. Believe regardless of naysayers.

6.Be Your self.

You so not have to be what anyone else wants you to be.To be me is to be free. Break all chains that seek to entangle you – whether it be parental expectations, organizational demands or societies conformities. You are unique, and in order to operate in that uniqueness you must resist conformity if you are to truly embrace your destiny.

7. Love is a net that catches hearts like a fish.

Let love do its powerful work within you. Love draws. Love attracts. Love builds. Love heals. Love captivates.Love is a  heat that will warm the hearts of generations.

8.Impossible is nothing
“Impossible is just a big word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in the world they’ve been given than to explore the power they have to change it. Impossible is not a fact.

It’s an opinion. Impossible is not a declaration. It’s a dare. Impossible is potential.
Impossible is temporary. Impossible is nothing.”

9.It isn’t the mountains ahead to climb that wear you out; it’s the pebble in your shoe.

Take time to pause a moment in order to remove any pebbles you may have picked up along the way. These can take the form of small bad habits, seeds of unforgiveness, lack of discipline, secret fears, or even devious doubts.

Pull aside, even for a moment. Address them. Deal with them. Destroy them. For many a mountaineer has fallen to their death because of an unaddressed pebble. Deal with the pebbles in your life decisively, and you will conquer many more mountain tops.

10.Hard work and dedication
Angelo Dundee Champs’s trainer said he was always first in the gym and last to leave. “He’d even come to train when he wasn’t fighting…He was like a student of boxing. He’d find out how champs trained, how much they ran, how they ate before and stuff like that.”

“His roadwork was twice as much as what he needed, his sparring twice as much as he needed. If he was gonna fight 15 rounds, he’d spar for 30,” Justin Fortune, a boxing trainer, conditioning coach said.
The fallen champion also once said, “I hated every minute of training, but I said, ‘Don’t quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.”

When asked how many sit-ups he did, he responded, “I don’t count my sit-ups. I only start counting when it starts hurting. That is when I start counting, because then it really counts. That’s what makes you a champion.”

His daughter Laila Ali reflecting on what she learned from her father “I learned that in order to be the best, you have to work harder than the rest”.

11. Old age is just a record of one’s whole life.

What does your record look like thus far? Every day we breathe we are writing the next page that will be included in the volume called, ‘My life’.

Within its record will be scribbles, mistakes, smudges, scratchings, all mixed up with moments of great joy, eloquence, sadness, wisdom and folly. But by the time we reach the last page – may it end with the words, ‘I have lived a full and fulfilled life – read and learn from my mistakes – and for the rest of the success story contained – there went I, but by the grace of God.’

 




Blog PhotoDarpan Sachdeva is the CEO and Founder of Nobel thoughts.com. With a long time passion for Entrepreneurship, Self development & Success, Darpan started his website with the intention of educating and inspiring like minded people all over the world to always strive for success no matter what their circumstances.To keep going and never get disheartened and learn from every adversity.